Waking up from a coma in 2017 with a severe head injury, only 8 weeks after my dad has passed away, I couldn't believe what I had done. I had almost left my son without a mum.
It was after this that I had to take a hard look in the mirror. Picking up a bottle rather than talking and wearing a smiling mask everyday wasn't the answer. That was clear!
I had to find the answer to change how I felt inside... and I did!!
Want to know a secret?? Everything came back to how I felt about myself... what I believed about myself... and that was what I needed to change.
I've been through a lot in my life. I was raised by narcissistic mother and mentally ill father and alcoholic father and went through some pretty traumatic events as a kid. I wasn't allowed to show emotion and so I learnt from a young age some pretty defensive coping mechanisms to keep me safe.
Some of those have served me really well. Learning to just get on with things despite what might be going on, finding the positives in every situation is a skill I'm proud to say I have.
Let me be honest though, whilst I was achieving great things, I was carrying a lot of anger, sadness and shame around with me. I would self sabotage regularly. and my relationships have been impacted negatively. it wasn't until a few years ago when I woke up from a coma, that I started to work on the inner me. and do the work I'd be avoiding for many years.
I had become accustomed to living in flight or fight mode, my brain consumed with anxiety, my reactions defensive. Always in survival mode. It wasn't until I stopped and started to actually learn about the impacts of neglect, being raised by a narcist, having been traumatised I started to understand what it had all done to me. and becoming aware was just the beginning.
After learning extensively about NPD (Narcistic Personality Disorder) and healing. I learnt the skills through becoming an NLP practitioner to release the emotions, change the beliefs and values you hold about yourself so I can help you to do the same.
I have proved during my lifetime, that it doesn't matter where you come from.! It doesn't matter what others think or believe.! You can achieve what you want.!
Things don't materialise overnight, I didn't go from a council flat at 16 with no family or financial support to where in a day, month, year but I did it and now I have even bigger goals and have the rest of my life ahead.
Unfortunately there's no magician however you are in control of one thing.... Your life! And the one thing that you can change instantly is your mindset... and that's where the changes begin.
It’s true what they say, you don't get to go back and change the past but you can definitely can change your future. Life coaching with me is about taking you from where you are today to where you want to be.